Thanksgiving Part II

If you’re lucky enough to be a guest for Thanksgiving this year and think all you have to do is show up and eat, think again!  Guests may not have the burden of cooking the perfect turkey, but they certainly have some responsibilities, especially if they want to be invited to future events.  So, how do you ensure you’re the consummate Thanksgiving guest? Keep reading…


  1. RSVP within 48 hours of receiving an invitation. Hosts have a very special meal to plan so the least you can do is be considerate and acknowledge their invitation by letting them know whether or not you will attend.
  2. Dress for the occasion. It’s a special one at that, so kick it up a notch! That means leaving the jeans at home.  You don’t need to wear a ball gown but something that respects your host, the other guests, and the occasion.
  3. Inform your host of any food restrictions in advance. No one wants to find out just as they’re sitting down to eat that you’re on a limited diet or that you’ve started on a raw food kick.
  4. Show up on time, please.  Make every effort to be punctual; it’s a sign of respect, plain and simple.
  5. Bring a little something (bottle of wine, hostess gift…) even if you were told nothing was needed.  It needn’t be pricey, just thoughtful.
  6. Arrange any flowers you bring in a vase ahead of time so that your host doesn’t have to take time away from guests/preparations to do so.
  7. Keep your word. If you said you were bringing a vegetable side, don’t bring a dessert instead.  Again, hosts have gone to great lengths to plan the menu and will not appreciate this last minute change, even if it’s delish….Alright, maybe.
  8. Offer to assist, but don’t take over and start giving orders. There’s only one captain on a ship so if your offer to assist is accepted, take your place as a helpful sailor.
  9. Wait for your host to seat you. She may just have a seating plan.  And, if she does, don’t try to change places with someone just for the sake of doing so.  Great efforts go into putting a seating plan together so be a good guest and trust that the host knows what she’s doing.
  10. Turn off any electronic devices and keep them off the table.  Keeping them on is rude.  Taking a call during the meal is rude. Interrupting someone mid-sentence to check your phone is rude.  Unless your job requires it to be on because of life or death situations, just turn it off. (Notice I didn’t mention keeping it on vibrate).
  11. Mind your manners.  Just because the turkey is finger-lickin’ good, doesn’t mean you should.  So, remember some of the basics:  Work the place setting from the outside in, don’t talk with your mouth full, don’t overload your plate/fork, and if you need to use the washroom, just excuse yourself.  No one needs to know where you’re going or what you’re going to do.
  12. Don’t overstay your welcome.  You don’t want to be the guest who keeps on eating, and drinking, and talking while his hosts are yawning, dozing and sighing.  Take a hint!
  13. Thank your host(s). You could do this by raising your glass during the meal and following up by, calling, emailing or mailing your appreciation with a handwritten note.


This is all doable, right?

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